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Knowing exactly when to move on is a task not many people can master… But without any doubt, this determines what course our lives will take a given moment ahead. Life isn’t exactly worth the balance or the crumpled paper it has been written on. We can spend our days cashing out the days of the past and letting them stab us from the city spires.

We can choose to either live in the abyss of the past, wondering where it all went wrong, trying to solve the labyrinth and getting nowhere or we can choose to let it stay with us while having eyes on the horizon where a new sun shines every day. The first person who is credited with patenting the first practical telephone Alexander Graham Bell once said: “When one door closes, another opens, but we often look so long and so regretfully upon the closed door that we do not see the one which has opened for us.”

And ain’t that the truth. So often we are so consumed by the grief and the trauma of past events that we choose to close eyes towards the chances that are being provided to us by life on an everyday basis. It’s funny and ironic at the same time that this is actually the human nature to dwell on the past for too long. And honestly, there is nothing wrong with that.

This proves that they are only human able to love and able to let the seed of emotions grow into the garden of their withered hearts. But as someone said “Everything in excess is poison” and this involves our thoughts as well. Positivity doesn’t grow on trees, it’s something we grow in our own hearts for our own benefits, and the sooner in life, we understand this – the better.

One of the major hurdles that Kaarvan has faced while trying to work for women empowerment in rural areas is the absence of positivity some women had. They got out of their 4-walled spaces to enroll with us but their mind was still locked somewhere in the dark making it a continuous trouble for them to embrace the change and accept the fact that their life can get better too. A human mind is a mephitic place and theirs was telling them to throw themselves in the dark and disappear again.

Kaarvan didn’t want to give them just a source of livelihood without them smelling the love through the moist wind. So many of the women that have enrolled with us in the past had eyes filled with despair and we wanted to give them space where they could not only learn to stand for themselves in our patriarchal society but also find like-minded people to share the burden their souls have been carrying around.

So in the company of people who had a similar lens to view life, they themselves became the moist wind – the redolence of love. Along with learning the best techniques for stitching and designing they learned that the more value they’ll give to their past, the more disrupted the equation of life balancing will become. And in this equation lies the essence of life.